Gay Identity: Is God calling you to be straight?

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God is not asking you to be straight but to be holy.
Same-sex attraction is not a sin by itself.
Your identity is in Christ, not your sexual orientation.

Can a gay person become a straight Christian?

Becket Cook lived a happy gay life and there was no guilt until he realized it was superficial. Similarly, Jackie Hill liked girls at age 5. At 19, she had her first girlfriend and they were fine until Romans 1:26 convicted her.

Likewise, Rachel Gilson had no problems with same-sex relationships until she felt empty inside. DZ Pacuno had a colorful gay life but his life began to fall apart. Living a straight life today, Becket, Jackie, Rachel, and DZ found joy and purpose in life, though they still have same-sex attraction.

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“A lot of how we talk about sexuality doesn’t come from scriptures but from stories,” says Jackie Hill Perry. Gays are alienated because many Christians say “homosexuals will go to hell.” They insist on gay conversion therapy, but religion doesn’t make you straight.

Be it lust, anger, or pride, only Jesus can transform a sinful heart. In the same way, doing things your own way will not accomplish much, only by abiding and remaining in Christ can anyone be victorious (John 15:5).

Only Jesus can transform you

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Being tempted is not (yet) sin

Before sin is a temptation (James 1:13-15). If you give in, the penalty is death (Romans 6:23). Jesus became a man and He was tempted on all sides, yet He did not sin (John 8:11). Jesus overcame sin as a man (John 16:33). Consequently, you too can overcome “sexual sin” if your mind is set on things of God (Colossians 3:2), and it begins with “repentance.”

True meaning of repentance

Repentance has been misunderstood as becoming “sinless.” Christian or not, we still sin and are saved because of what Jesus did, not by our own merits (Ephesians 2:8-9). Repentance (to sin) comes from the Greek word “metanoia” which means “change of mind”.

This kind of repentance is not about regret or shame; it is making a decision to turn around and face a new direction towards Christ. In other words, it is having a new mindset.

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Struggle is real – Homosexual, transgender, lesbian, or pedophilia are sexual in nature. It affects even church missionaries, priests, and pastors. Regardless if its heterosexual, same-sex, or porn, they’re all rooted on sexual struggle. While there’s a debate saying these are a mental disorder, it’s a difficult thing to bear.

You are no longer defined by your struggle or sin but in perfection that is in Christ alone.

It’s the identity you choose

“Homosexuality in the Bible” is a verb says Jackie Hill. People have made it into a noun and labeled those who struggle with it as sinners. But “who among you have not sinned that you can condemn someone,” Jesus asked? “Sin is sin,” but when we choose Jesus over our sinful desires, God defines our identity.

God sees our identity in Christ as pure and sinless. We are created in God’s likeness. With Jesus, you aren’t defined by your struggle or sin but in perfection in Christ alone.

But it’s unfair

Like any other problem, you can look at struggles as opportunities. You may not understand why you have gay feelings in this fallen world, but this is where you can trust God and not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Rest assured, you can overcome through struggles that may remain (John 1:12). Two things happen if we choose to obey God over our sinful desires:

  1. He stays close by you (Psalm 34:18).
  2. The angels rejoice in heaven (Luke 15:10).

Jesus does not condemn you

A huge crowd wanted to condemn Mary Magdalene because her sin was prostitution. Jesus said, “Didn’t even one of them condemn you?, neither do I. Go and sin no more” (John 8:11). The issue goes beyond sin itself.

Like Magdalene, Jesus didn’t dwell much on her immoral behavior but on “sexual purity.” In fact, God will remember our sins no more (Hebrews 8:12). Jesus calls you to be holy because we were created in Him and through Him. (Colossians 1:16)

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it doesn’t matter if you have same-sex attraction – God will meet you in your struggle.

You may be facing a sexual struggle but if you repent (metanoia) and “decide” to pursue “sexual purity,” Jesus will give you the grace to overcome (Philippians 4:13). Being a Christian is a personal relationship, it doesn’t matter if you have same-sex attraction – God will meet you in your struggle. God may not be calling you to be straight, but to pursue holiness through grace, not by your own ability. (1 Peter 1:16)

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