God is not asking you to be straight but to be holy.
Same-sex attraction is not a sin by itself.
Your identity is in Christ, not your sexual orientation.
Can a gay person become straight if he joins a church and become a Christian?
Becket Cook lived a happy gay life, and there was no guilt until he realized it was superficial. Similarly, Jackie Hill liked girls at 5 years old. At 19, she had her first girlfriend, and they were fine until Romans 1:26 convicted her. Likewise, Rachel Gilson had no problems with same-sex relationships until she felt empty inside.
DZ Pacuno had a colorful gay life, but his life fell apart. Living a straight life today, Becket, Jackie, Rachel, and DZ found joy and purpose in life, though they still have same-sex attraction.
Church and religion do not make one come out of being gay. God calls us to live a holy life, and it begins with believing, receiving Jesus, and living life pleasing to God.
it begins with believing, receiving Jesus.
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Joining a church will not make you straight
“A lot of how we talk about sexuality doesn’t come from scriptures but stories,” says Jackie Hill Perry. Gays are alienated because Christian-homophobes say, “gays will go to hell.” They insist on gay conversion therapy, but religion doesn’t make you straight.
Be it lust, anger, or pride; only Jesus can transform a sinful heart. In the same way, doing things your own way will not accomplish much. Only by abiding and remaining in Christ can anyone bear fruit and be victorious (John 15:5).
Only Jesus can transform you
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Temptation is not (yet) sin
Before sin is a temptation (James 1:13-15), if you give in, the penalty is death (Romans 6:23). Jesus became a man, and He was tempted on all sides, yet He did not sin (John 8:11). Jesus did not sin even as a man (John 16:33).
It’s the identity you choose
Homosexuality in the Bible is a verb, says
- He stays close by you. (Psalm 34:18)
- The angels rejoice in heaven. (Luke 15:10)
- God doesn’t condemn us because of our sin but sees our identity in Christ. (Romans 8:1)
True meaning of repentance: Repentance has been misunderstood as becoming “sinless.” Repentance (to sin) comes from the Greek word “metanoia,” which means “change of mind.” It is a decision one makes in turning to Christ.
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you are not defined by your struggles or sin but by God’s love and perfection.
Jesus does not condemn you
A huge crowd wanted to condemn Mary Magdalene because her sin was prostitution. Jesus said, “Didn’t even one of them condemn you?, neither do I. Go and sin no more” (John 8:11).
Jesus didn’t dwell much on her immoral behavior but on “sexual purity.” In fact, God will remember our sins no more (Hebrews 8:12). Jesus calls us to be holy because we were created in Him and through Him. (Colossians 1:16)
What if you still struggle with gay feelings?
Like any other struggles, our response is opportunities to get closer to
Jesus. You may not understand why you have gay feelings in this fallen world, but this is where you can trust God and not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6).
“I have been crucified with Christ, and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.”