God’s Best: Biblical qualities of a boyfriend or girlfriend

List of criteria when looking for your God's Best

Seven important questions to ask when considering a potential boyfriend or girlfriend

Scriptures discourage dating non-Christians and unbelievers. However, just because you are dating someone who says they are a Christian might just be a label. The heart is deceitful (Jer. 17:9), so having a list of negotiable and non-negotiables is essential.

1. Teachable heart

The man is the leader of the house. He is accountable to God for his own family. Thus, a young man geared towards it should be humble and teachable.

On the other hand, a Christian wife submits to her loving husband and should also have a humble and teachable heart. During courtship, these qualities should be evident.

2 Timothy 3:16
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, reproof, correction, and training in righteousness…

2. Not trying to be someone else

Never go steady with someone trying to be someone else. Much of their time is focused on improving their self-image rather than values. They spend too much on fashion and social media to gain attention. This person makes excuses for many things instead of owning their mistakes.

Mark 12:30-31
Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.

3. You are not the priority

Do they talk about things of God rather than about themself? Our priority should be to worship Jesus and do godly things that promote the gospel, love, and peace. Obedience to God must always come first.

Matthew 6:33
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.

4. Friendship goals

Relationships are partnerships, and the most successful ones begin with friendship. The mark of a lasting bond is how each other helps and supports one another in stressful situations. Which goes to say, “I married my best friend.”

Proverbs 27:17
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”

5. Saves money

Once married, the man of the house is expected to provide. Financial problem is a leading cause of divorce, Christian or non-Christian. The problem stems from being materialistic. Be with someone who manages their finances well.

1 Timothy 5:8
But if anyone does not provide for his own, that is his household; he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

6. Love, respects parents

How a person behaves with his own family indicates how they will treat you in times of crisis or tension. Likewise, a young man who is too dependent on his parents will have difficulty establishing relationships.

Proverbs 20:20
Whoever curses his father or mother—his lamp will go out in deep darkness.

7. You see the person as a future spouse

Romantic and physical attraction is essential. If you don’t see the person you are dating as your future husband or wife—you are wasting time. If your relationship becomes sexual, Satan will have a reason to muddle it.

Would you want to spend the rest of your life with a person who rejects Biblical values? Only God can change the hearts of men; we are not their savior. Unfortunately, they have their place, which is not within God’s family.

Hebrews 13:4
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

REMEMBER: There is no such thing as Mr. Right or Ms. Right. We’re all imperfect. But in the eyes of God, we are made perfect through Jesus. By the grace of God, we become the right person for someone.

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