Seven most important questions to ask when looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend
The Bible does not have specific technics for finding Mr. Right or Ms. Right but lists the qualities you should look for in a relationship. Dating non-Christian, unbelievers are discouraged in scriptures. Dating a Christian is more than a label. The following list can help you decide if you should take it to the next level.
1. Humble & Teachable
The man is the leader of the house. He is accountable to God for the kind of family he will raise. Thus, a young man preparing for such should be humble and teachable. Likewise, do you both allow the Bible to teach you, or do you resist it?
2 Timothy 3:16
“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness…“
2. Not trying to be someone else
Is your future boyfriend or girlfriend a habitual liar? The most common lie in dating is trying to be someone else. The rest are making excuses for mistakes instead of owning them. Saving money, studying, or going to church isn’t their priority, but to look good.
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.“
3. You are not the priority
Does he/she serve God and often talk about things of God rather than talk about himself/herself? Our priority should be to worship Jesus and do godly things that promote the gospel, love, and peace. Obedience to God must always come first.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.“
4. Friendship goals
“Relationships” is a partnership, and the most successful ones are those that began with a friendship. The mark of a lasting bond is how each other help and support one another in stressful situations. Which goes to say, “I married my best friend.”
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
5. Saves money
Once married, the man of the house is expected to provide for his family. Financial problem is a leading cause of divorce, Christian, or non-Christian. The problem stems from being materialistic. You must manage your finances well, and it starts young.
1 Timothy 5:8
“But if anyone does not provide for his own, that is his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.“
6. Loves parents
How a person behaves with his own family is indicative of how he or she will treat you in times of crisis or tension. Likewise, a young man who is too dependent on his parents will have difficulties in establishing relationships.
“Whoever curses his father or mother—his lamp will go out in deep darkness.“
7. Do you see this person as your future spouse?
Romantic and physical attraction is essential, but not the goal in a relationship. If you don’t see the person you are dating as your future husband or wife – you are wasting time. If your relationship becomes sexual, it is a bad relationship.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.“
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