Seven most important questions to ask when looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend
The Bible says the heart is deceitful (Jer. 17:9). Often, we assume it’s “true love,” but in reality, it’s a passionate attraction. Scriptures discourage dating non-Christian and unbelievers. However, just because you are dating someone who says he or she is a Christian might just be a label.
1. Teachable heart
The man is the leader of the house. He is accountable to God for the kind of family he will raise. Thus, a young man preparing for such should be humble and teachable. Likewise, do you both allow the Bible to teach you, or do you resist it?
2 Timothy 3:16
“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness…“
2. Not trying to be someone else
Never go steady with someone trying to be someone else. This kind of person makes excuses for a lot of things instead of owning them. They spend too much on fashion or gadgets instead of saving money. Studying or going to church is not a priority.
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.“
3. You are not the priority
Does he/she serve God and often talk about things of God rather than talk about himself/herself? Our priority should be to worship Jesus and do godly things that promote the gospel, love, and peace. Obedience to God must always come first.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.“
4. Friendship goals
“Relationships” is a partnership, and the most successful ones are those that began with a friendship. The mark of a lasting bond is how each other help and support one another in stressful situations. Which goes to say, “I married my best friend.”
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
5. Saves money
Once married, the man of the house is expected to provide. Financial problem is a leading cause of divorce, Christian, or non-Christian. The problem stems from being materialistic. Be with someone who manages their finances well, even at a young age.
1 Timothy 5:8
“But if anyone does not provide for his own, that is his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.“
6. Love, respects parents
How a person behaves with his own family is indicative of how he or she will treat you in times of crisis or tension. Likewise, a young man who is too dependent on his parents will have difficulties in establishing relationships.
“Whoever curses his father or mother—his lamp will go out in deep darkness.“
7. You see the person as future spouse
Romantic and physical attraction is essential. If you don’t see the person you are dating as your future husband or wife – you are wasting time. If your relationship becomes sexually impure, don’t expect God to bless your relationship.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.“
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