Seven important questions to ask when considering a potential boyfriend or girlfriend
Scriptures discourage dating non-Christians and unbelievers. However, just because you are dating someone who says they are a Christian might just be a label. The heart is deceitful (Jer. 17:9), so having a list of negotiable and non-negotiables is important.
1. Teachable heart
The man is the leader of the house. He is accountable to God for his own family. Thus, a young man geared towards it should be humble and teachable. On the other hand, a Christian wife submits to her loving husband.
2 Timothy 3:16
“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, reproof, correction, and training in righteousness…“
2. Not trying to be someone else
Never go steady with someone trying to be someone else. This kind of person makes excuses for many things instead of owning them. They spend too much on fashion or gadgets for self-image. Studying or going to church is usually not their priority.
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.“
3. You are not the priority
Does he/she talk about things of God rather than about himself/herself? Our priority should be to worship Jesus and do godly things that promote the gospel, love, and peace. Obedience to God must always come first.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.“
4. Friendship goals
“Relationships” is a partnership; the most successful ones begin with friendship. The mark of a lasting bond is how each other help and support one another in stressful situations. Which goes to say, “I married my best friend.”
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
5. Saves money
Once married, the man of the house is expected to provide. Financial problem is a leading cause of divorce, Christian or non-Christian. The problem stems from being materialistic. Be with someone who manages their finances well.
1 Timothy 5:8
“But if anyone does not provide for his own, that is his household; he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.“
6. Love, respects parents
How a person behaves with his own family indicates how they will treat you in times of crisis or tension. Likewise, a young man too dependent on his parents will have difficulty establishing relationships.
“Whoever curses his father or mother—his lamp will go out in deep darkness.“
7. You see the person as a future spouse
Romantic and physical attraction is essential. If you don’t see the person you are dating as your future husband or wife—you are wasting time. If your relationship becomes sexually impure, Satan will have a reason to muddle it.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.“
REMEMBER: There is no such thing as Mr. Right or Ms. Right. We’re all imperfect. But in the eyes of God, we are made perfect through Jesus. By the grace of God, we become the right person for someone.