Becket Cook: Being gay was my identity

Why Becket Cook turned his back from a fabulous gay life

Becket Cook lived the Hollywood life. He was a night owl who knew everyone. It was fun—it was “the” life. Then he decided to leave it all behind. “I can’t do this forever,” he thought.

As a trendy gay man in Hollywood’s elite celebrity fashion, he worked with stars and supermodels like Natalie Portman and Claudia Schiffer. He designed photo sets for Vogue, Harper’s Bazaar and rubbed elbows with celebrities like Drew Barrymore. Then Becket met Christ.

He got accepted to law school but changed his mind and decided to move to L.A. to pursue acting and writing. He met friends who today “runs Hollywood.” He was living the gay life.

I can’t do this forever.

Embracing the wrong identity

As a young boy, Becket kept his gay feelings at bay until he met a friend. Together, they discovered the gay life. Naturally, he liked it! Soon, he came out and embraced his sexuality without borders.

Growing up as Catholic didn’t matter to him. “The older I got, homosexuality became my identity. Christians were the enemy. I’m not going to think about God or even consider God. That’s off the table,” he said.


In 2009, Becket and his friends were having coffee at L.A.’s Silver Lake neighborhood. He noticed a group of young people at another table—they had open Bibles on top, which was queer enough.

Becket was not even interested in Bibles—he knew what it would say about homosexuality. But his friend pushed him to stir a conversion. He asked, “Are you guys, like Christians? What’s the deal?”

Cook then asked the $64 question, “What does your church think about being gay?” “We believe it’s a sin,” one of the guys said. “Whoa. OK…interesting,” Becket said. Of course, he knew that already.

Is that all there is?

Six months earlier in Paris

Becket was at a fashion party in Paris. In the midst of fun was that question that beset those whose identity is defined by money, fame, and success. “Is that all there is?”

He had a career in Hollywood, met A-listers, and attended the most glamorous parties. Yet there was emptiness. He’s been ignoring that ‘nudge’ all his life—but turning to God was not an option.

But God is not an option

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Becket could no longer pretend he didn’t need God

After that small chat at Intelligentsia Coffee, they invited him to church. The following Sunday, he found himself driving to Reality Church of Los Angeles, a bit perplexed.

Before long, he found himself grappling with the reality that God alone had the answer to his questions. He could no longer turn his back and pretend everything was fine.

For a long time, Becket’s sexual identity as a gay man defined him. After hearing the Gospel of Christ, Becket realized his identity is in Christ.


Our past does not define us

Becket’s world was full of sin. The issue was not that he had a same-sex attraction, but what he chose to do with it. Today, Becket let go of the past and embraced a Christian life.

His past no longer defines him but who he is in Christ.

Was it worth it?

Becket gained a new relationship with God through Christ. Knowing the meaning of life—where he came from, what he’s doing, where he’s going. “It gives me such peace,” he said.

Philippians 3:8
I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord.”

Becket Cook, author of A Change of Affection: A Gay Man’s Incredible Story of Redemption. “

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